Following the TED talks is a discussion period. It is best to allow anyone who has an immediate or urgent desire to say something to get it out. From there the discussion should largely be allowed to go where it will. Two general ideas should be discussed after each video, so that participants can visualize the path in front of them:
What rings true from this presentation? With what do you disagree? (It is OK to disagree)
What do these videos have to do with being Humble, Empathetic, Compassionate, and Kind?
This is the time when you as facilitators will need to work the hardest maintaining balance. You will need to keep the discussions active but not feel the need to break the silence yourselves. You will need to make sure that everyone is able to share that wants to but not feeling pushed to share more than they desire. You will need to listen and contribute as a participant but place the participation of the others ahead of yourself. Most importantly, you will need to model Humility, Empathy, Compassion, and Kindness in your leadership of the group. It’s a lot of work, but that’s why there are two facilitators. Facilitators need to be good teammates and help each other out.
If the group gets ‘stuck’ without the ability to keep the discussion going, it may be worthwhile to ask one of the Questions for Discernment from the Homework to encourage the group forward. The Questions for Discernment are meant to lead individuals in a general direction based upon the content of the video (see the Session Notes for more details). You may find that the presentation takes your group in another direction. Either is fine as long as the discussion stays ‘on the path to HECK.’ Your job as the anchor facilitator is to keep people from staying too far off that path, while recognizing that the path is quite wide.