Introductions, Hospitality, and Ground Rules
Questions for Discernment
- Why do we fear being wrong? Why is being wrong seen as a sign of weakness?
- Have you ever felt the need to defend your position, even though you suspected you were wrong? Why? How did it turn out?
- Is it a white and gold dress or a blue and black dress? Is it “Laurel” or “Yanny”? How can multiple people experience the same exact thing – even together and at the same time – and yet claim to have experienced vastly different things?
- Recall a time when you were embarrassingly wrong about something. Consider what was more painful – the actual consequence of being wrong or the embarrassment.
- What is a ‘hot topic’ with which you hold a very passionate opinion? What in your history makes you hold that position? Create a compelling argument that you could make to yourself that might convince you to think differently.
- Then next time you have a difference of opinion with a friend which will likely end in an ‘agreement to disagree’, replace debating with repeating back to your friend what you’ve heard – as many times as it takes – until your friend confirms that you understand their position; not that you agree, but that you understand.