Session 1: Being Wrong • On the Path to HECK

You are invited to engage at whatever distance feels right today
You are not required to speak, share, or explain anything
Noticing is enough — meaning can come later
Silence, confusion, and resistance are valid participation
Take what is useful and leave the rest
The Questions for Discernment and Homework are optional and meant to serve you, not pressure you. Do as much or as little as feels right.

Why do we fear being wrong? Why is being wrong seen as a sign of weakness?
Have you ever felt the need to defend your position, even though you suspected you were wrong? Why? How did it turn out?
Is it a white and gold dress or a blue and black dress? Is it “Laurel” or “Yanny”? Think of a time when two people in your life saw the same situation very differently. What did that reveal about your own assumptions or blind spots?

Recall a time when you were embarrassingly wrong about something. Consider what was more painful – the actual consequence of being wrong or the embarrassment.
What is a ‘hot topic’ with which you hold a very passionate opinion? What in your history makes you hold that position? Create a compelling argument that you could make to yourself that might convince you to think differently.
Then next time you have a difference of opinion with a friend which will likely end in an ‘agreement to disagree’, replace debating with repeating back to your friend what you’ve heard – as many times as it takes – until your friend confirms that you understand their position; not that you agree, but that you understand.